Would you ever?
I’ve been revisiting a lot of my former relationships trying to see the pattern of why they didn’t work out. I am attracted to positive thinkers and visionaries. I always run into the same problem with these guys: they don’t believe in fibromyalgia.
I get told time & time again that I just need to focus on the good or stop worrying. Instead of helping me they become a burden to me where I have to deal with all my own problems and theirs too. If I try to confide something about my job they just tell me to get a job outside the home. They just don’t understand my limitations and how hard I already push myself. It’s everything I can do to pay the rent, dream about getting a life insurance quote and go to bed exhausted. That’s when I’m working under my own conditions and hours. No way could I even sit in a chair for any amount of time. My question is have you ever or would you ever date someone who wasn’t supportive of your disease?
July 13th, 2009 at 6:47 pm
Its tough and i can see how you must feel…
I too have had issues with ‘the secret’
I was inspired after watching it and felt it was all a great show and if only it really did work. I definitely believe their are elements of truth in how we can attract things in our future if we focus a lot on them a few months or years before (subconciously too)
However i do not belive that ‘the secret’ is ALL GOOD
It seems rather a selfish and materialistic way to exist, i want a big house, and focussing only on that until it comes.. hmmm
I belive that KARMA is a lot to do with things, if we are destined to have a BIG house, our future and its Karmic blue print, will provide chances for us, but if we dont do enough good for others at ALL TIME, and always put others first. i dont think it makes sense…
Your relationships, perhaps you expect something from them, compassion, understanding, support. I know i have in the past too, but always feel disapointed and alone. Then i woke up, we are alone, get over it, get up and dont feel sorry for yourself. fight and be strong…
The mind is where everything lies, its not just thinking positive, its about thinking Realistically and optimistically. but knowing yourself inside out, and being in control of your limitations,…
July 14th, 2009 at 11:03 am
I was talking to a friend today about government benefits for people unable to work and he told me that his brother-in-law suffers from fibromyalgia and has had big problems with the UK government over his benefit entitlement. He is clearly unable to work and was recently called into a benefits office to talk over his situation. He struggled for quite some time navigating his way across town by bus and train only to be told on arrival “well, you made it here, clearly you can work” and had his benefits cut immediately. They didn’t even take into account the 3 hours it took him to complete a journey that would take most people 45mins or so.
It seems that not only loved ones but also officials who are supposed to help that can have such a bad attitude towards your illness.
Personally, I don’t think anyone should ever date anyone that isn’t supportive of things like that. I think your partner should be supportive of everything about you and everything you do. Especially when it comes to things as serious as illness.